If you think "monosexism" is a problematic term because it groups people of various identities into one category, please also stop using the following terms


bidyke:

  • Sexism - and the word “men” - groups together white men with men of color, cis men with trans men, abled men with disabled men, etc. It means that a a queer trans man of color can oppress a white cishet woman.
  • Heterosexism - and the word “heterosexual” - groups together cis men, cis women and trans/nonbinary people, white people and poc, abled and disabled people, etc. It means that heterosexual disabled working class women of color can oppress abled white middle class gay cis men.
  • Cissexism - and the word “cisgender” - groups together cis women with cis men, white people and poc, abled and disabled people, etc. It means a cisgender lesbian woman of color can oppress a white trans man. (You know? I bet this is an argument that radscums actually use.)
  • Ableism - Okay you get the point
  • Classism - Or so I hope
  • Ageism - Because this is ridiculous
  • Etc.

Why is this ridiculous?

  • Because this is not how intersectionality works
  • Each term represents one axis of oppression
  • No one term can take all axes into account
  • Nor should it, otherwise we wouldn’t have been able to talk about the oppression of any specific group
  • No one axis of oppression trumps all others
  • To say that monosexism inherently and necessarily trumps all other axes is to derail the discussion
  • Is a black lesbian trans woman privileged over a white bisexual cis man? Of course not.
  • But that is not the question
  • The question is: is a black lesbian trans woman privileged over a black bisexual trans woman?
  • Take a look at some of our statistics, and then think about that.
  • Then take a look at how I, the person who wrote the monosexual privilege checklist, wrote, time after time, about how the list is meant to draw attention to straight people and away from gay and lesbian people.
  • Then take a look at my book, which includes the list, and is about intersectional bisexual politics, with chapters about how monosexism works at intersections between bisexuality and women (including trans women), men (including trans men), trans and nonbinary people, and people of color.
  • And was written by a bisexual genderqueer disabled person/woman of color.
  • FFS
  • Then after you acknowledge all that, maybe we can start having a discussion.

[Note: I trust tumblr will ignore this post much like any other that I make about monosexism and monosexual privilege because I guess I’m making too much sense? But - just in case it gets around, know that I may not be following up, as per low spoons. Hate to my ask box will be deleted.]

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lollipvps:

But you have to understand that when both my cousin and I came out as bisexual to our great-aunt, she told us we were too young to label ourselves.

You have to understand that both of my brothers are gay and came out to her before the ages of 15. She had absolutely no problem.

My great-aunt is a 69 year old lesbian.

You have to understand that not every aspect of biphobia has to do with homophobia.

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lollipvps:

But you have to understand that when both my cousin and I came out as bisexual to our great-aunt, she told us we were too young to label ourselves.

You have to understand that both of my brothers are gay and came out to her before the ages of 15. She had absolutely no problem.

My great-aunt is a 69 year old lesbian.

You have to understand that not every aspect of biphobia has to do with homophobia.

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shampoo:

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shampoo:

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disneylawyer:

"Hi I’m Joseph Stalin and I nominate Leon Trotsky for the CCCP ice pick challenge!"

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the-uncensored-she:

the-goddamazon:

Yo Nicki is legit fed up with people talking about her ass, though. Look at her face yo. She is genuinely INSULTED and not having it.

Like this is a woman who just likes what she does and all anyone can ever focus on is her fucking ass and the fact she got ass shots or whatever. She’s not stupid. Give it a fucking rest.

James Franco is a piece of shit. Because the only “value” or “talent” a Black woman could ever possess is her body or her ass, am I right? Fuck Franco and people who spout the same shit.

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but-imbrokeninside:

sh-ocking:

zaynhappened:

hatchworthsmoustache:

missjraffe:

cvn-t:

The hottest things I’ve ever been told.

I’m just picturing someone screaming “BONJOUR” at a penis

#SACRE BLEU MADEMOISELLE VAGINA#HON HON HON TITTY CROISSANTS

TITTY CROISSANTS

None of you should ever be having sex

😳

but-imbrokeninside:

sh-ocking:

zaynhappened:

hatchworthsmoustache:

missjraffe:

cvn-t:

The hottest things I’ve ever been told.

I’m just picturing someone screaming “BONJOUR” at a penis

#SACRE BLEU MADEMOISELLE VAGINA#HON HON HON TITTY CROISSANTS

TITTY CROISSANTS

None of you should ever be having sex

😳

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pathologicalmonsters:

my psych textbook being shitty and transphobic as fuck.

(I’m emailing the author, who is one of my tutors, about it.)

oh my god what is this what is this I don’t even know where to begin YOUR TUTOR WROTE THIS??????

also I don’t even want to know what the “psychological problems of homosexual people” are and I bet bisexuals don’t even exist

Anonymous said: What's the most illegal thing you ever did?

sephyerite:

almanzapedia:

At Stanford there was this Professor who was a total bitch and she taught British Literature, which was cool. Except she taught only her opinions of the books and it didn’t help me as a writer. I went to school to learn new things to improve my craft, not have someone else’s opinions carved onto my forehead.

So anyway, for our final project, she asked us to write a ten page paper on why the color symbolism in Othello was so significant. I did some research and it turned out that she did her entire graduate thesis on this very subject. I was mad. This wasn’t teaching, this was boosting her ego. SO I wrote a ten page essay on why color symbolism in Othello wasn’t significant, satirizing it to the point of no return, saying that her opinion was an opinion and shouldn’t be taken seriously.

SHe failed me, needless to say. So in retaliation, I responded by baking a batch of brownies laced with weed and laxatives and delivered them myself to the professor hours before her big graduation speech. I told her that it was a peace offering, my way of apologizing and asking if I could do anything to fix my grade.

She refused to fix my grade.

In the end, she shit herself on stage.

I didn’t regret it.

No mercy.

this is a fucking terrible thing to do. like…you refused to do the assignment set so you got failed then you gave her drugs (which lbr could have caused plenty of health problems, you don’t know what sort of conditions she might have) and publicly humiliated her because you were an entitled shit?

and “it didn’t help me as a writer”? You were taking British Literature, not Creative Writing? I don’t - ??